Each month, Dialosophy will feature a “Insecure Girl of the Month”, also known as #IGM. This month, we shine a bright light on: Miss Taylor D. Reynolds.
Name: Taylor D. Reynolds
Hometown: Orangeburg, South Carolina
Favorite Quote: “Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive.” – Elbert Hubbard
Insecurity is complex in many ways. Simplistically, insecurity is the lack of being secure, whether that is in one’s self, abilities, place in life, etc. It does not just apply to looks and style, as most people assume. Insecurity is all encompassing and affects a variety of people. However, personally, I have been insecure about aesthetics for as long as I remember. It all started with Beyoncé’s “Baby Boy” music video… I just remember being in a trance, looking at the screen hoping that one day I could look like Queen Bey with the sparkly belly button ring. That coupled with my “tomboy” demeanor ultimately led to me being extremely insecure about my appearance. My body shape, weight, attractiveness, my “tomboy” essence, so on and so forth. This feeling persisted until… really now. I did not learn how to be happy with myself and my body until I took control of my destiny. Learning to embrace your insecurities really starts within. I had to change my frame of mind on how I viewed myself and then take action. Once I started to really look in the mirror and believe that I was perfectly fine as I am, I began to actively change my thoughts processes on what I thought of myself. From there, I began to realize if I didn’t like myself, I had to work hard at changing what I did not like by exercising, eating healthy, wearing the clothes that made me felt beautiful, amongst other things. All in all, I believe that: Mindset = Belief = Active Change = Positive Movement.
To me, love starts within self and permeates to the people around you. If you exude love, there is no way that the people around you will not feel it. Therefore, it is important to love yourself before ever trying to love someone else. Once you gain that love for self, love becomes many things. Love is persistent. Love is consistent. Love is intense. Love is ongoing. Love is effervescent. Love is a process. Love is… Life. Love is shown through actions. Simply. I can say I love you all day but if there is no action, no proof, is it really true? I show self-love by caring about taking care of myself. I will never compromise my mental health, physical health, or self-wealth for the benefit of another entity. I read, I cook, I take pictures, I watch Netflix, I take naps, I tweet, I Snapchat, I do what I love because I love myself. It makes me happy, so I treat myself with the things that bring me joy. Some of the things I do to show love to others is listening and genuinely caring what people are saying, offering encouraging words, buying special gifts, and spending time with the ones I love. This is only a small portion of what I do for myself and others but in short, I show love through caring and action.
I honestly have no idea what type of person I am. I cannot bring myself to identify exactly what and/or who I am because I genuinely just live. The people around me may be able to give a name to it, but I simply just don’t know. However, I know that I try to be a loving person, a caring person, a genuine person, a hilarious person, an insightful person, a giving and selfless person. And I think that’s what I love about myself. The fact that I’m not living my life by society’s pen. I give praise to all perspectives; however, I do not think I am living life trying to find myself. I am truly just trying to be me with hopes that everything I do is intentional and helpful for others around me. Because my life is for me, but it is not about me. Everything I do, I do with the purpose of making myself happy but I realize that part of that is making others happy. I am simply a giver. Sometimes too much of a giver… But I realize that my purpose in this world is to pour into others as much I pour into myself. That is what I love most about myself: my selfless selfishness.
In one year, I see myself on the path to receive my Masters of Education in Professional School Counseling. From there, I will be relocating from Athens to Atlanta to get back into the classroom at an elementary school while pursuing my true passion in photography. I hope to transform this passion into a lucrative business venture where I am able to take photos for celebrity clients. So basically, just pouring all of my love into everything I love to produce what I love: happy people.
If you are interested in becoming or know someone that’d you like to nominate for the next #IGM, please email firstname.lastname@example.org. Please send any photo of your choice that best captures you and answer the following questions:
- Favorite Quote
- What does insecurity mean to you? What are you insecure about? How can you learn to embrace your insecurities?
- What does love mean to you? How do you show this emotion and other actions to yourself?
- What type of person are you? What do you love the most about yourself?
- Where do you see yourself in one year?
Each young woman selected for #IGM will receive a $10 Amazon e-gift card at the end of the month.